Love Is Not Enough
YOU ARE ALREADY PERFECT
‘Be Content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.’ ~Lao Tzu
A lot of people come to Zen Habits (and read other personal development blogs and books) because they want to improve something about themselves. They’re not satisfied with their lives, they’re unhappy with their bodies, they want to be better people.
I know, because I was one of those people.
This desire to improve myself and my life was one of the things that led to Zen Habits. I’ve been there, and I can say that it leads to a lot of striving, and a lot of dissatisfaction with who you are and what your life is.
A powerful realization that has helped me is simply this: You’re already good enough, you already have more than enough, and you’re already perfect.
Try saying that to yourself, as corny as that might sound, just to see if it sounds true. Does it resonate as something you already believe (in which case, you can probably stop reading now), or does it not feel right? Do you feel like there are things you still need to improve?
The thing I’ve learned, and it’s not some new truth but an old one that took me much too long to learn, is that if you learn to be content with who you are and where you are in life, it changes everything.
Consider what changes:
- You no longer feel dissatisfied with yourself or your life.
- You no longer spend so much time and energy wanting to change and trying to change.
- You no longer compare yourself to other people, and wish you were better.
- You can be happy, all the time, no matter what happens in the world around you.
- Instead of trying to improve yourself, you can spend your time helping others.
- You stop spending so much money on things that will supposedly improve your life.
- You can be smug about it, like me.
OK, the last bit was a joke, but the rest is true, in my experience.
And here’s another realization that I’ve written about before: You already have everything you need to be happy, right here and right now.
Do you have eyes that see? You have the ability to appreciate the beauty of the sky, of greenery, of people’s faces, of water. Do you have ears that hear? You have the ability to appreciate music, the sound of rainfall, the laughter of friends. You have the ability to feel rough denim, cool breezes, grass on bare feet … to smell fresh-cut grass, flowers, coffee … to taste a plum, a chili pepper, chocolate.
This is a miracle, and we take it for granted. Instead, we strive for more, when we already have everything. We want nicer clothes, cooler gadgets, bigger muscles, bigger boobies, flatter stomachs, bigger houses, cars with leather seats that talk to you and massage your butt. We’ve kinda gone insane that way.
The sane thing is to realize we don’t need any of that. We don’t need to improve our lives. We don’t need to improve ourselves, because we’re already perfect.
Once you accept this, it frees you.
You’re now free to do things, not because you want to be better, but because you love it. Because you’re passionate about it, and it gives you joy. Because it’s a miracle that you even can do it.
You’re already perfect. Being content with yourself means realizing that striving for perfection is based on someone else’s idea of what “perfect” is … and that that’s all bullshit. Perfect is who you are, not who someone else says you should be.
Also, as corny as it may sound, I love you, completely and unconditionally, and if everyone else in your world betrays and abandons you, you always have me. :)
Now stop reading this blog, and go be happy.
MR PERFECT
FAVORITE SONGS TODAY
I WILL LIVE HAPPY AND DIE HAPPY
BABY, I'M FALLING
BABY YOU'RE A FIREWORK
Drifting through the wind, wanting to start again?
Do you ever feel, feel so paper thin
Like a house of cards, one blow from caving in?
Do you ever feel already buried deep?
Six feet under screams but no one seems to hear a thing
Do you know that there's still a chance for you
'Cause there's a spark in you?
You just gotta ignite the light and let it shine
Just own the night like the 4th of July
TIL DEATH DO US PART
CHOPIN'S NOCTURNE
Those dragonflies with broken wings
Scatter down onto this forest
And my eyes
Have not a single shred of sympathy
Losing you
Tears are unclear
Losing you
Even my smile has a shadow
The wind at the rooftop grown full of moss
Jeers at my sadness
Like a dry well without water
I use a sad but beautiful font
To describe that love that is too late to regret
... so I just think back, smile and am happy for what was given
I ONLY CRY IN THE RAIN
CHANGE OF HAIR / CHANGE OF LIFE
VICIOUS CIRCLE
You know it's funny..
seems everytime I, try to forget about you
my feelings pull you back in
cause i got somebody else
and you got somebody else
but you and I both know
how it really it is
but still you know what I'm sayin, B?
Ran across a picture you took of me
and you crossed my mind.
I still hear you saying you love me
when I close my eyes.
If I didnt go away for school
then where would we be?
Probably still together and somewhere happy.
If I'm supposed to be moved on to new relationships
why are you still haunting me?
They say if you love somethin let it go
and if it comes back then that's how you know
I got to the stop light, then I made 4 rights
now I'm back where I started
and youre back in my life.
The further I go the closer I get back to you
I say I moved on untill I'm reminded of you
can somebody help me get out of this circle?
SO MUCH TO DO BUT SO LITTLE TO DO IT WITH
Imorgon, onsdag, åker jag hem till Borås igen. Har 1000 saker att fixa när jag kommer hem och 999 saker att fixa innan jag åker. Igår och idag fick jag i alla fall lite tid att gå på stan och samla ihop lite saker. Jag bävar inför resan hem imorgon, 3 timmar instängd i en buss. Det är åtminstone bus4you, men 3 f*cking timmar!? Ibland önskar man att man hade en ipad, hihi. Nu känner jag shoppingsuget stiga igen. Nästa inköp!?
Och yes, för att vara lite mer glädjedödande så börjar skolan 1 september för mig. Omfg, det är nästa vecka!? "Nästa vecka" får det att låta så nära. Jag som sköt undan den tanken hela tiden, den slog till mig nu. Ont som satan gör det också!
.... och tack för att Ni tog er dyrbara tid för att lyssna på mitt gnäll. So long, suckers! Haha, I kid I kid ;)
19 AUG 2011
Så vad händer i helgen? Jo, en kompis kommer på besök i Linköping (and you know who you are) och så blir det lite hemmafest på lördagen. Söndagen ska jag bara ta det lugnt och fixa klart allt och packa inför onsdagen, då jag åker tillbaka till Borås igen. Home sweet home... eller snarare home sweet apartment. De resterande dagarna ska spenderas med att träffa alla en sista gång innan jag åker hem.
Dessutom ska en ny dator inköpas! - MacBook Pro *yeeeey*. Jag brukar alltid säga Mac Pro men tydligen är det en annan ny produkt just nu. Liyah goes Mac? Haha, vi får se hur det slutar. Är faktiskt väldigt skeptisk till det eftersom jag har haft riktigt dåliga erfarenheter med Mac-datorer, men den är ju så snygg! ^____^
GOING BROWN AGAIN
Imorgon ska jag färga håret! Har köpt detta hårfärgningsmedel från Syoss. Hazelnut Brown heter färgen och jag hoppas verkligen att jag får likadan färg som på bilden (ÄLSKAR den bruna färgen), men jag vet att det antagligen inte kommer att bli det eftersom mitt hår aldrig får den färgen som bilden visar. Brukar ha problem med att välja hårfärg, dock har jag hört att, för att få ut det bästa utav färgen, ska man färga med samma hårfärg och märke varje gång man färgar. Så det ska jag prova hädanefter så får vi se om det knepet gäller för mig med.
NEW-IN THIS FALL
Hittade en kavaj-liknande kappa på H&M igår. Tyckte den var så jäkla snygg att jag inte kunde bestämma mig om jag skulle ha den svarta eller beigea, så det fick bli båda! De var riktigt billiga också för 299 kr styck. Jag har letat efter sådana liknande väldigt länge nu och denna var nästan exakt så som jag ville ha den. Kanske uppgraderar den lite när jag väl vet hur jag vill att den ska se ut. Älskar ju sån typisk koreansk stil med dragkedjor, sömdetaljer och kinesisk krage - LOVING IT!
THAT IS WHY IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN ME
G.O - Even In My Dreams
SOME PEOPLE DO SOME PEOPLE DONT
BECAUSE I'M A FOOL
WHEN YOU'RE THE ONE IN A MILLION
After the rain comes sun, right!?
SUDDENLY
How come it's effecting me so much? Wanting to say so many things, trying to catch up with the life that's been living 'til now without me, but my mind won't let me...
I told myself I'd be fine alone
That I'd do well without you
Though I try to tell myself that
as I try to fall asleep, I'm unable to sleep
I end up only thinking about the way you talk and your expressions
Tell me now, what did I do wrong?
Tell me now, was it because I was lacking?
I really wanted you like crazy
I have been praying so that I could see you again
I feel as though I will die like this
Now, can't you been the one coming towards me?
Please...
WHAT MAKES ME ME
- "She's impulsive, carefree and a world of flaws.. but she is very frank, very pure. She's immature like a child. She doesn't seem to use her brain, but instead, she uses her heart to face the world. Just as if she was a person living in another world. People usually don't know how to treat her.
DONT LOOK BACK . KEEP ON WALKING
Do you ever feel betrayed?
Do you ever feel the guilt of paying attention to someone else?
Where do you draw the line?
Johnta Austin - Call You Tonight
I'D RATHER BE ALONE IF YOU'RE HAPPY
Here's a song that's been playing on my speakers for a while now...
Sam Hook - My Best Friend's Girlfriend
You think you're right, but you're wrong
you should of left a long time ago
you and me might never be
I'd rather be alone if you're happy
(yeah) cause you deserve a soldier
someone who would work hard for your love
you should know how that feels
I'm wishing it was me
I'm sick and tired of sitting here
watching him do you wrong like you ain't perfect
and baby I don't think there's a right way for me to say
in different circumstances I would make you my girl
I never thought that i could feel this way for
my best friend's girlfriend
do you think that I'm wrong
for wanting to love her
and needing to hold her down
I know that he ain't ready to do what I do
(hey) my best friend's girlfriend
I'm stuck thinking that I'm the one
when I know it ain't right
but how wrong can I be
knowing I'm better
then he could ever be for that girl
what hurts is that she will never hear the words
that I wish I could say to her
WHY I LOVE YOU
Finaste låten som finns.. eller vad säger ni? Synd att den är så kort bara :(
JC ft. Gemini - Why I Love You
YOU'VE GOTTA DANCE LIKE THERE'S NOBODY WATCHING
Dang, I sooo love the music at the clubs nowadays! Especially the RnB ones. Here's a list of my favs:
Chris Brown - Yeah 3x
Alexandra Stan - Mr Saxobeat
Mohombi ft. Nicole Scherzinger - Coconut Tree
Far East Movement ft. Snoop Dog - If I Was You
Jennifer Lopez ft. Pitbull - On The Floor
Dr. Dre ft. Snoop Dog & Akon - Kush
Chris Brown ft. Lil' Wayne & Busta Rhymes - Look At Me Now
Mohombi ft. Nelly - Miss Me
Nelly ft. Kelly Rowland - Gone
Neyo ft. Pitbull & Nayer - Give Me Everything (Tonight)
Sean Paul - Hold My Hand
Snoop Dog ft. David Guetta - Wet
The Black Eyed Peas - Just Can't Get Enough
T-pain ft. Chris Brown - Best Love Song
Usher - Daddy's Home
So go download these songs right now! ;)
EAT SHIT AND DIE
I DON'T SEE HOW YOU CAN HATE FROM OUTSIDE OF THE CLUBYOU CAN'T EVEN GET IN
In my head we’re happy, you and me - The perfect fit. They will never find us out in there. No reality, no trouble, no mess, just us ♥
Alex Thao - What Are Words
ME SO HAPPY
I woke up all fresh and happy today and now I feel so energetic! I think everything in my life is so perfect right now that I want to cherish every moment of it! I always love the summer times! And it is not becasue of the weather because summers in Sweden sucks bad!
I'm going to go to the kitchen and make some food and then wait a little while to digest the food before I go out powerwalking. When I was running these days lately I noticed my ears hurted when I got home. I think it's because I'm not entirely well yet from when I got sick the last time. So today I will just powerwalk and take it a bit easy so I don't get sick again. So watch out, one pig comes running! :D
xxx / Liyah
BEFORE BED
Btw.. did you hear!? Amy Whinehouse died ='( She was only 27 years old.. dang, so young! She was only 5 years older than me.
1983-2011, RIP Whinehouse!
Chris Mhina - Taking Pictures
LOVE PEACE HARMONY
I hope all this hate will end soon.
In Norway, the 22th July, there was a norwegian man who killed people with a homemade bomb and then shot at wild at people around him. He almost killed100 people! It's insane! I can't even explain how sad this makes me. And I still can'tunderstand it. I'm thinking about the deceased ones and their friends and family, how much pain and suffer they must be going through. Such a waste of lifes. I always thought the Scandinavian was a good and carefree place. You hear and read so much about Iran and America and so on, but those things never happens here and I'm scared that it will come to us too someday.
xxx / Liyah
23 JULY 2011
I'm feeling blue... I think it's because I slept so bad last night and didn't eat so much yesterday so I feel kind of weak. I didn't have much appetite, don't know why. To keep myself from starving I drank a lot of water instead. Healthy, right? Well, I felt it helped a little because yesterday I was all alert and happy! Compared to today.
Aah! Dang.. It started to rain now. And I was thinking about going out for a run. I will probably have to wait a little while until the rain stops...
Do you believe it's raining because someone special is crying?
Then why am I always sad everytime it rains?
GUIDE FOR A DAY
xxx / Liyah
SMALL DETAILS MAKE A BIG DIFFERENCE
I really like this jacket! I especially love the pads on the elbows. I bought this in store one sale for 299 SEK (original price 399 SEK) and I just saw it costs 199 SEK on their online store. So harsh! Well well.. what you have to do with this jacket is to fold the arms up once or twice so the lined interior shows, and also push in the pocket-"covers" so you only see a straight line ... soo nice!
xxx / Liyah
WHENEVER YOU'RE IN NEED
xxx / Liyah
TOMODACHI (friend)
Right now I'm so happy. I feel so blessed. So blessed with people around me, such beautiful people.. like angels. I sometimes feel like I don't deserve them. Because they are really THAT good. And I know that they are the ones that has "refined" me to the person I am today. And everybody loves me, right? Haha. I'm just so happy I have these people in my life, and I can't even explain how lucky I am. I love, love, love you guys! I'm living in a fairytale with frends ♥♥♥
A card to my friends, Hihi ^_^
xxx / Liyah
THE TASTE IS LIKE HEAVEN. SO IT WAS NAMED HEAVEN
FORGIVE ME BUT I WONT LET ME
You break my heart with your knowing smile.
The modest glint in your eye as you tell yourself
it’s nothing, and turn away, falling back into that
monotonous life of routine and dead romance.
I think it’s all on my side. The coyness of my
greetings and goodbyes. Awkward nods and
acknowledgements that others would dismiss.
They don’t see the longing in my eyes, the smile
in yours. You’re scared. My heart knows it yet
my head can't quite decide. Why would you risk
it all? Too much at stake to take a gamble on
a hunch. But you know it all, I fear, too well.
A forbidden desire, so clichéd, so dull in its
nature. In my head we’re happy, you and me.
The perfect fit. They'll never find out in there.
No reality, no trouble, no mess, just us.
So I’ll still let my cheeks flush crimson and
let my gaze follow your steps, down the hall,
Where at the end you turn and sneak a smile.
Because you know it all, don’t you? Too well.
18 JULY 2011
xxx / Liyah
OUT TO GET SOME
It's time for me to put my shoes on and go out to get some .....
.... exercise. What crossed your mind? ;)
My round looks like this. It goes along the river in Linköping
MELBOURNE IN MY HEART
Except for China and Hong Kong I have never felt the urge to want to go somewhere else outside of Sweden, but now I got Melbourne in my heart. How can a city be so big, splendid, beautiful and awesome.. so magnificent!? It's like all the worlds beauty and glory in one city.
So Melbourne is now on my list, someday I will absolutely go there to see all its greatness, so Melbourne, wait for me ;)
xxx / Liyah
BABY LOVE
Morning People!
Today is sunday and it's usually a very slack day for me to just rest and sit home watch a movie or something. And maybe go see my newborn baby if he and his parents have enough strength to meet me. He was born yesterday, and I call him mine, Haha. I just love babies. Can't wait to have my own. I'm not in a hurry though, but just the thought of my own flesh and blood. I can already feel the love ^_^
Moon Mason, is there a cuter baby? I just love the Mason siblings ^^
I recommend you to see the movie Baby and I
xxx / Liyah
TO COMPREHEND HUMANS
And here comes one fed up Liyah. Yeah, I'm kinda agitated right now. I just don't understand people, not even the people closest to me, and I wonder.. can you ever truely know a person? I don't think you can. I usually don't wanna be this kind of negative person because I always want to have positive thoughts but when you see it infront of you you just can't stand it. That's why I'm writing this. I have to take out my anger and frustration somehow and this is the best way I can think of without hurting anyone. So.. where do I begin? Cheaters? Liars? Fake people? Jealous people? The list is too long.
I don't like to judge people as long as they don't give me a reason to judge them, like hurting me or my close ones. And even then I feel bad for giving judgements to people. Because I always believe that people can change or there is always two sides of every story. But I can see around me that judging comes so easy to others. What can I do except to listen? Listen to every hateful word, backstabbing others, and so on and so on... What can you do? It makes one wonder: if they talk bad about people infront of you, what makes you think they don't do the same about you? If you feel something for someone why not talk to them? I just don't understand it. Did God have a hurry creating us in those 7 days that he messed us up? Haha, I really want to believe that.
And yeah, now I feel soo much better. Thank you for wasting your time reading this ;)
Liyah is going to bed now and sleep it off and when I wake up it's a new day! Goodnight my loved ones!
xxx / Liyah
I'LL LEAVE YOU ALONE SO HAVE A GREAT LIVE
Loving this song right now while raping the replay button.
Although the tears are filling up
I'll leave you alone, so have a great life
That's all I can say
I'll forget about it, so have a great life
Be happy, even without me
The love you've thrown away
Take it with you, take all of it away
Don't even bother to say sorry
Don't worry about me
Na naa naaa..
xxx / Liyah
SUMMER TIME
Soo.. what happened these last days?
On midsummer that was a few weeks ago we went to Gothenburg for the weekend and had a great time partying, going to the amusementpark Liseberg and bbq'ing. I won a big case over 2 kg that contained Ballerina Chocolate cookies and my friend won a big Marabou case over 2 kg too. And it was the first time I've ever bbq'd this summer and the first time in my whole life making the food, Haha. I have always been the one only eating it. Great weekend all in all.
Until now I've been in Linköping, still.. shopping and meeting my friends and just having a great time. Yeah, and because of my summer holiday which is like about roughly 2.5 months, I'm kinda messing up my diurnal rhythm. And like the night person I am, my nights become day and vice-versa. Good to know, right?
And today I was supposed to be on a surprise party but change of plans, instead we'll have some drinks out later tonight and/or watch a movie and just cuddle with eachother, Hihi :) It will be great! I love the summer times.
xxx / Liyah
GRAND OPENING
Picture for the day - from the movie He's Beautiful
♥ Jang Geun Suk vs Taeja Tukki (RabbitPig)
Maybe I should start writing again. My friends were complaining.. like no life, eh? So they kinda like wanted to have the opportunity to stalk me, yeah I know - I'm just THAT awesome.. jokes ofcourse ^^ But I could see that my statistics just fell down to the ground, Haha. No one who wants me anymore??
But I was thinking about writing in english. Stuff sounds so much greater in english, don't you agree? Swedish sooo totally sucks! My english too for that matter, but bear with it, please ;)
xxx / Liyah
LIKE A LOTUS FLOWER
- Why did you do that?
¤ Do what?
- How could you just vanish in the air without no warning? Like air, an existence that always stayed by my side just disappeared into thin air.
¤ I was not your air. I wasn't the air. I was probably more like a wind, but you had mistaken me as the air. I was also foolish enough to think I was the air. I thought I could stay there as long as you wanted.
- What do you mean?
¤ Winds can never return back to their original place once they fly by.
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GOOD MORNING PEOLPE
Tog precis en lång dusch så nu luktar man strawberry butter från Body Shop... mmmm, ljuvligt! Luktar precis som de kinesiska jelly'n, om ni vet vilka jag menar? Se bilden! (Dem verkar vara japanska men hittade ingen bättre bild)
Lite music för att få igång huvudet såhär tidigt: Foolish Love by Big Bang
